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I've spent a lot of time driving these past few months. All the people dearest to me live in places that are at least a 2-hour drive away, so I've spent many a weekend driving here, there, and everywhere. Since I've spent so much time on the road (in addition to the time I was already spending driving to and from work and the grocery store), I've been thinking a lot about what it means to drive in a manner that is consistent with what I want my character to be. I am striving to be a woman who is more compassionate, virtuous, and elegant, and so I've been thinking about how a woman who is those things might approach driving. This is what I've come up with so far:

1. Being aware. 

I'll be completely candid: this is probably what I struggle with the most on this list. I don't know that I'd entirely label myself as a daydreamer, but I definitely drift away into my thoughts a lot, including when I'm driving. I know. Yikes. I remember one time when I was stopped at a stoplight next to a Watermill Express and completely lost myself thinking about how we use to drink that water when I was a little girl. Next thing I know, the car behind me is honking, and I'm feeling bad because the light has been green for who knows how long.

This happens to me way more than it should, and I'm not going to pretend I have some kind of magic solution for absentminded drivers. But, like they say, the first step is admitting you have a problem. So if you have a problem with absentmindedness, give yourself the grace to acknowledge that fact. The only way to remedy our weaknesses is by accepting that we have them. :)

Some ways I try to cope with my absentmindedness are by being extra intentional about not messing with my phone to change songs or podcasts, even at stoplights. I also try to make an active effort to regularly check the color of stoplights when I feel my mind wandering.

2. Following proper driving protocols.

This might seem like a no-brainer in a post about driving, but I feel like with time it's really easy to let certain driving protocols slip to the wayside. The thing is, like etiquette, driving protocols are not just about making ourselves comfortable but making other people comfortable too. That could include the passengers in our car or the people we'll never meet stopped at the stop sign across the intersection. 

I don't know that it's in your best interest (or my own) to go really in-depth into the rules of the road here, but the thing I want to stress is a mindset shift. Sometimes, I think we let ourselves drift into a sort of cognitive dissonance, where our driving persona completely differs from our everyday persona. Being considerate of other people is important when they're standing in front of you, and it's also important to extend that same courtesy to the person driving in front of you. Following driving protocols has a lot less to do with rules and a lot more to do with respect for other people.

If you want a refresher on driver protocols, Emily Post's Etiquette blog has a great article here.

3. Going the speed limit.

This is another one that might seem like a no-brainer (or a non-issue). An Allstate survey cited here found that 89% of U.S. drivers say they've driven over the posted speed limit and 40% say they've driven more than 20 mph over the posted limit. I'm not going to pretend I'm not guilty of this, because I am, especially the "5 mph over rule." But the thing is speed limits exist for a reason: to protect us and every single other driver on the road. While you might think speeding only affects you and the passengers of your car, this is not the case since it can make other people on the road feel uncomfortable and even put their lives at risk if you lose control.

In the fall of 2020, my little sister and I were in an accident on a freeway leaving Houston. It had rained recently and another driver who was presumably speeding lost control, hydroplaned, and came cutting perpendicularly across three lanes of traffic. Thankfully no one suffered any serious injuries, but it was a scarring encounter. I've always been a cautious driver but seeing that car coming sideways across the highway while my sister and I were bopping to "Cold Feet" by Loud Luxury changed me. And every time a car zips by going 90+ miles per hour, it makes me feel scared for my life. Even if you don't think it's highly likely that you will get in an accident (which I don't think anyone can say with certainty), think about the people who are driving in the lanes around you. They don't know you personally or that you are a great driver or whatever your excuse is for speeding. All they know is that a sports car came careening down a highway on a cloudy afternoon and almost clipped them while changing lanes. All they know is that they were momentarily filled with fear and it's because of you. 

I'm not trying to make anyone feel attacked. I know a lot of people speed. Again, I'm guilty of it too, so this isn't some kind of moral assessment. But I'm just trying to point out that if you wouldn't threaten someone's life when they're standing in front of you, maybe consider not doing it when they're driving next to you.

4. Giving people grace.

Sometimes people cut us off. Sometimes they drive way too slow. Sometimes they drive way too fast (see point 3). Sometimes they aren't paying attention when the light turns green. Sometimes they hesitate at stop signs. Sometimes people do these things to us and sometimes we do them to other people. I am guilty of literally all these things, but do I get annoyed when other people do them too? Of course.

There's this thing I learned about in AP Psychology my senior year of high school called the "fundamental attribution error." Basically, what this means is we attribute our mistakes to external factors while attributing the mistakes of others to their character.

I cut into this lane at the last minute because if I don't exit here, I'll be late for work.
vs.
They cut into this lane at the last minute because they're a careless person.

I sit inside my car in the parking lot because it's not safe to be messing with my phone walking to my car. I didn't know someone was waiting for my spot and if I had known, I would have left.
vs.
They sit inside their car because they're a selfish jerk.

I'm just going to park my car at the pump and use the restroom before I pay for gas.
vs.
That person is such a jerk for just parking their car at a gas station pump.

I could go on and on and on. The fact of the matter is that we are all human and we will all make mistakes. We will all do inconsiderate things on the road, but that doesn't mean that we are terrible people out to ruin anyone's day. It just means we made a mistake. So if we can give ourselves that kind of grace, we can give it to other people too. Maybe they really are an inconsiderate jerk. But maybe they're not. 

5. Staying calm. 

There's a great quote attributed to Buddha about anger: 
"Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die."

That also applies to road rage. Getting angry at other drivers on the road ruins your day more than it ruins anyone else's. I know we all have bad days, and sometimes a rude driver is the final straw when it comes to self-control. I won't pretend that I have this figured out because I don't, but there are three things that help me stay calm when someone on the road makes me feel frustrated:

  • Take a deep breath. When I get frustrated I think of the mantra from Jane the Virgin: "Inhala, exhala." Breathe in, breathe out. Getting control of your breathing is the first step.
  • Remember #4 in this list. Give that person some grace. You don't know what their situation is or why they did what they did.
  • Pray for them. This is a difficult habit to form, but I've been trying to do it any time anyone makes me upset. I offer up a quick prayer for that person. If the person you're praying for is driving recklessly, pray they get home safely and that they form safer driving habits.
These three things always help me drain the rage out of a situation. I don't want other people's behavior to control how I behave. People can only get to you if you let them.

Well, that's all for today! I hope these tips are actionable and that they make driving a little less of a stressful experience. I also want to emphasize that if you struggle with any of the issues I mention here, I don't want you to beat yourself up. That's not my intention at all. I don't think anyone perfectly follows any of these steps, but the point of personal growth is just growth. One step forward is still a step forward. So be kind to yourself, give yourself grace, and acknowledge that change takes time.

I hope you have a wonderful day and a wonderful week.

Stay lavender!

-  Theresa 


Hello Lavender Ladies and happy Monday! Here's to a fresh new week!

Speaking of fresh new weeks, how many of you actually think of Mondays as "fresh"? I recently had a conversation with my boyfriend about this and I'd love your opinion. We were talking with one of his cousins about how different days have different feelings to them and I said Mondays feel "fresh" because they are the start of a brand new week. Well, my boyfriend felt that this was too positive of a narrative for Mondays. What do you think? I'm a big fan of new beginnings and that's not to say I looove Mondays or anything but I do think they have a sense of promise and possibility to them. Let me know what you think in the comments below!

Okay, so this week's topic is inspired by an article I recently read about Taylor Swift and Joe Alwyn's relationship that you can check out here. I've been a Swiftie since I was ten years old and even dedicated portions of my Tumblr to her when I was a freshman in high school. She is the only artist of whom I have listened to every single song and I sort of feel like she gave me songs to grow up to. I sang "White Horse" and "Fifteen" through my first heartbreak, mourned lost love with her album "Red," and celebrated the beauty of an enduring relationship with "Lover." Every single one of her albums is unique and distinct, and no matter how much her music changes, I will forever be a fan.

But back to the article. I read it about a week ago, and before reading this article, I had no idea that Taylor Swift was even in a relationship, much less one spanning four years. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost five years, and I know how significant it is to make it that far. Reading this article made me feel connected to her in a way I had never imagined, and it also breathed new life into some of my favorite songs from her three most recent albums (Lover, Folklore, and Evermore). Before reading the article about her and Joe, I had the impression that some of her songs about long-term love (e.g. "Invisible String" in Folklore) were about a fictitious relationship. I had no idea she was in anything that enduring. I had no idea because Taylor and Joe intentionally kept their relationship on the down low. I think they did the right thing, and I'm also so incredibly happy for her.

Anyway, reading about her relationship and the way she and Joe went such great lengths to keep it hidden from the public eye really got me thinking about the importance of privacy, specifically in a world where it is not only encouraged but effortless to share everything. I know when I was younger, I was all for this. I was definitely an active subtweeter my sophomore year of high school and I kept an updated Instagram feed with everything from pictures of me and my science fair project to a selfie of me with a chocolate soymilk mustache. Everyone was sharing everything, and I wanted to feel seen.

There's a phrase from the movie Avatar that I've been thinking about since my sister and I rewatched the film this past fall. It's "oel ngati kamei" and it's a N'avi greeting that means "I see you." We became obsessed with it because Willow uses it in her song "Wait a Minute" when referring to a relationship:

Some things don't work
Some things are bound to be
Some things, they hurt
And they tear apart me
But I broke my word, and you were bound to see
And I cried at the curb
When you first said "Oel ngati kameie." 

Anyway, the phrase means "I see you" in a much deeper sense than just physical sight. It also relates to sight in a spiritual sense. I understand you. I comprehend you.

I think people have a desire to be seen, to be understood, to be comprehended. I think it's a basic human want that has pervaded generations of different people, and the way it manifests in our modern world is through a reliance on social media. We want to be understood, and so we share ourselves with everyone in the hopes that they will gain an understanding of who we really are. We make ourselves physically seen in the hopes that we will be spiritually seen as well.

Unfortunately, it's not that simple. It's kind of like the distinction between knowing of someone and knowing someone. To know of someone is to know what their favorite color is, where they live, where they work, who they hang out with on the weekends, what they do for a living, and so forth. To know someone is to know the thoughts that keep them up at night, the idiosyncrasies that make them who they are, the things that make their heart beat fast. You know me more through this blog than you can ever know me through my personal Instagram, but even then there is still a sense of knowing of me, because you only see the highly filtered information I choose to present to you.

So back to Taylor Swift. In a 2020 conversation with Paul McCartney (as per the article), Taylor says that keeping her relationship with Joe Alwyn has made her life feel "more like a real life and less like just a storyline to be commented on in tabloids." By choosing not to share certain information with the public, she has eliminated the public's capability to weigh in on her life. I think this is important. Why should people who only know of us, who don't really know us, get to weigh in on what we do and say and believe?

Taylor is most likely a lot more famous than you or I, but I think we less-famous people are still just as subject to public commentary. When we put pieces of our lives out in the open, we give othersthe opportunity to weigh in, whether that's behind our backs or to our faces. While this might be fine for some people, it wasn't fine for Taylor Swift, and as of late it has ceased to be fine for me.

Every time I think about making a post on my personal Instagram, I wonder "Why do I want people to know this about me?" And then that's followed by "Why do people I don't even talk to deserve to know this about me?" That almost always results in me not making the post. I used to have hundreds of posts on my Instagram, dating all the way back to when I was 14, but I've since archived the vast majority.

The thing is people don't have a right to know about your life. They don't have a right to know about your relationship, your favorite places to eat, your favorite outfits. You don't owe that information to anyone. If you want to share it, that's fine but there is a give and take. When you give up your privacy, people take it as an opportunity to assess you and your life.

I just don't want it anymore. I recently had an old high school friend mistakenly assume I'm still in college because I didn't post anything on social media about my graduation. And this is the weirdest thing, but somehow that made me kind of proud. I don't want people keeping tabs on my life without my permission. If someone wants to know what I'm up to, then they can text me. 

This might seem hypocritical because I'm a blogger, and yes, maintaining a blog does require a certain level of transparency. But there are still lots of things I choose not to share and will continue choosing not to share.

I'm not trying to bash people with active social media presences. Some people can handle that much awareness from other people of their lives, but I can't. I need some of my moments to be just for me and not for anyone else. Taylor Swift and Joe Alwyn don't owe us the details of their relationship, and I don't owe my followers the details of my life.

Anyway, I hope you have a fantastic day full of light, love, romance, and the sweet reward of "secret" moments between you and the people you care about.

With love,

- Theresa


Hello Lavender Ladies and happy Wednesday!

Before we get into it, I wanted to point out that yes, this post is a little late. I've tried to get into a routine of posting every Monday morning at 7:00 AM CST so you have a new blogpost from me at the beginning of each week. Unfortunately, last week was sort of on the crazy side for me, and so even though I drafted half of this blog post, it just wasn't ready for public viewing yet. A little while back I made a rule that I would not present unpolished aspects of myself to the public, and that definitely applies here.

Anyway, on to the topic of today's post. I'd like to give a shoutout to the Mrs. Midwest blog here, because this post was inspired by a post of Caitlin's from July of 2019. You can see that post here (I definitely recommend giving it a look). Mrs. Midwest's YouTube channel and blog were my main source of inspiration for creating my own blog and her content was kind of the jumping-off point for my own feminine journey. I love her energy, her ideas, and the online community she's created.

Below I've compiled my own version of her article "20 Things I Recommend." Over this past year I've really focused on personal growth and leveling myself up and these are some little things to try out if you're also looking to change course. So without further ado... 20 things I recommend you start doing today are:

1. Pressing pause on Netflix. 

I talk about this in my Lent update, but I gave up Netflix for Lent and it has been so amazingly fruitful. I've gotten back 1-2 hours of time every single day that I use in ways that are more meaningful to me (like cooking nice meals or studying for my upcoming teacher certification exam).

2. Pressing play on classical music. 

This is something I started doing recently after I watched the movie Shutter Island (2010). The film has a phenomenal score and there's this one song by Max Richter that sent me completely over the moon ("The Nature of Daylight"). I became completely obsessed with it and played it repeatedly on loop, but the only problem was that this particular song has a more melancholy vibe to it. So listening to it when I was in a good mood would pull me into a more pensive, existential state. Because of this, I decided to create a playlist on Spotify with uplifting classical music and one with more thought-provoking music and I started listening to the uplifting one on my drive to work. Let me tell you, it made me feel so much more upbeat. There's just something about listening to Scott Joplin's "Maple Leaf Rag" and Justin Hurwitz's "Planetarium" (yes, from La La Land) while gazing at a sunny sky. Classical music gives me a chance to explore my thoughts and really enjoy my mornings as the gifts from God that they are.

3. Doing yoga. 

This is a brand new habit I've kept up relatively well for the past two and a half months thanks to a good friend of mine. I do five minutes every morning, and when I was starting out I also did it every night. Regardless of how you decide to use yoga, it has been absolutely phenomenal for me. It has helped me gain control of my breathing in all kinds of stressful situations and just really look inward. I talk about yoga a little more in-depth in my post about cultivating a peaceful spirit, but that's exactly what it helps me do. Also, it's a great way to exercise and be active! :)

4. Reading the Bible. 

This is a habit I've been able to sustain thanks to another good friend. I started regularly reading the Bible in November of 2020 and I have somehow, by the grace of God, managed to stick with it ever since. In these past few months, I've gone through John, Job, Luke, Revelation (I didn't finish this book because it kind of wasn't what I needed at that moment), and Ephesians. I'm currently working my way through Matthew. Scripture is such a powerful force for good, and turning myself toward God each evening really helps me re-center my heart on what matters most.

5. Drinking matcha. 

My little sister gave up drinking coffee for Lent, and so she's the one who got me into this delicious drink. Matcha is apparently a superfood with tons of health benefits. I'm no expert, but you can read about it here. From promoting heart-health to boosting brain function, there are a lot of cool pros to this drink. I usually drink it mixed with milk as a matcha latte. If that's something y'all are interested in, I'll try to post the recipe I use on here.

6. Going for a run. 

I haven't talked about this much on here, but when I was in college I was involved in a military-style extracurricular organization (like ROTC) that placed a heavy emphasis on physical fitness. While my feelings toward running have been all over the place these past four years, I've come to enjoy it as a stress reliever. Don't place a lot of pressure on yourself to go fast or far: just put on some good tunes and do what you can. :)

7. Drinking more water. 

So there are a lot of health benefits to this too and, again, I'm no expert, but you can read more here about why this is a good idea. The way I keep on top of this is by always having a water bottle or cup of water within arm's reach.

8. Praying the "Serenity Prayer". 

I learned this in high school and it has provided me great comfort in times of stress, sadness, and confusion. You can read it here.

9. Watching these YouTubers. 

I'll try to go into their accounts in a little more detail in a future post, but all of these accounts are my current go-tos. Mrs. Midwest got me started in my feminine journey and The Feminine Fancy and The Daily Connoisseur are really active on YouTube with a lot of actionable femininity tips. Edukale is my go-to source for nutrition-related info (and is the reason I managed to get my diet into shape) and But First, Coffee has a lot of great productivity tips.
  • Mrs. Midwest
  • The Feminine Fancy
  • The Daily Connoisseur
  • Edukale
  • But First, Coffee

10. Reading The Dispossessed by Ursula K. Le Guin. 

I'm going to do a future blogpost about this book because there is literally so much depth there. But it's honestly just a great sci-fi political read. I also love the use of physics and Le Guin's exploration of a philosophy of time.

11. Creating a cleaning routine. 

I love this Good Housekeeping article on the subject. Something I associate with femininity is creating a comfortable, relaxing "homely" space. Cleaning is a big part of that for me because I always feel more relaxed when I know my environment is straightened out. I fall off the bandwagon with this every now and then, but generally speaking, I try to straighten up my apartment once a week. I try to do it on Friday nights so I can enjoy my weekends, but sometimes I put it off until Sunday.

12.Putting the kitchen to bed. 

I learned this from Mrs. Midwest and I try to do it every single night. I wash all my dishes, wipe down the counters, and sweep up any crumbs from the night's cooking so it's one less thing to stress about in the morning.

13. Eating mindfully. 

Lucie at Edukale has some great videos on this. I decided at the beginning of Lent that I would also stop consuming media while eating, and so, even though I had already given up Netflix, I decided to also not read or watch YouTube during meals. Even though I don't think YouTube or books are as time-consuming as Netflix, they still require a lot of mental attention, and so I always ended up focusing on something other than your food. Now that I've cut them out, I actually desire to just sit and eat my food (even when I'm eating alone). Talk about crazy. Growing up, this seemed insane to me. I've always hated eating alone and the idea of really tuning into that alone-ness (different than loneliness), of focusing on just me, my thoughts, and my food sounded kind of horrible. I remember when I was a junior in high school, my Spanish teacher (he loved to give us life lessons and advice) told us that we needed to learn how to eat, how to sit and focus on a meal and just enjoy. Well, Mr. Spanish Teacher, I have finally learned! Food tastes so much better without a bunch of distractions. Sidebar: people are not distractions.

14. Pressing the reset button. 

This is a little trick I learned from But First, Coffee. I'm not 100% sure which video this is from, but I think it's this one. The idea is that when you are struggling with motivation or have just had an off day, you pick some kind of tangible moment in the future and say "That's when I'll hit my reset button," and commit to starting fresh. In her video, Kallie says you might tell yourself "After I get this latte, I'm hitting my reset button." There are infinite ways to apply this: after your latte, after your nap, after you wash your face, etc. While Kallie poses this as a motivation hack (I think) in her video, this is also great for us Highly Sensitive People. I personally tend to get really overwhelmed by my emotions, negativity, and so many other things that are going on in our busy, crazy world. Sometimes all it takes to push me over the edge is H-E-B (Texas' premier grocery store) not having the brand of milk I want. I kid you not. But pressing my reset button has proved so beneficial in this respect. I remember one time when I was driving and really struggling and just thought to myself "When I pass that stoplight, I'm hitting my reset button." And I did. My emotions didn't just magically vanish, but I was able to manage them in a much more productive way.

15. Eating intuitively and listening to your hunger cues. 

This is a concept I picked up from Lucie at Edukale on YouTube. She has a bunch of great videos about it, so I won't pretend to be an expert, but I definitely recommend you check her out. Since I've started doing this, I've completely stopped counting calories. I had been calorie obsessed for the past two years, and I did not think a YouTuber would change that, but she (along with this Linda Sun video) convinced me stop completely and just focus on eating until satisfied. I especially appreciated Lucie's video on the hunger scale when I started doing this.

16. Eating more whole foods. 

This is another thing I learned from Lucie at Edukale. She really has so much great content and I just really enjoy her overall demeanor. This is something I started doing because of this video ("How French Women Don't Get Fat"), which is actually the reason I got so into her channel. I've been trying to buy better quality foods at the grocery store, and yes I spend more on groceries but because the food I'm eating is so much better, I save money by not going to restaurants. I also love this blog for recipe advice. Miereille offers amazing guidance on everything from underappreciated meal components (like soup) to structured plans for creating delicious lunches. 

17. Making more meals from scratch. 

This is another thing Lucie at Edukale inspired me to do. With the same video I mentioned above ("How French Women Don't Get Fat"), she talks about how French people are a lot more focused on quality than efficiency when it comes to food. Between Pinterest and the French Women Don't Get Fat blog (which I also linked in #16), I have found this to be a much more satisfying way to eat (even if it's more time consuming).

18. Writing more letters. 

Okay, so this is something my dad always emphasized with us growing up. We live pretty far away from the rest of my family, so whenever my grandparents would send gifts or money, my dad would make sure we wrote Thank You notes before we could access any of it. Same thing for the gifts I received at my dance recitals. I didn't realize this is an uncommon practice until I got much older, but it's something I still strive to keep up with. There's something so meaningful about going the extra mile for someone who's gone the extra mile for you. :)

19. Developing a skincare routine. 

I talk about this in my first-ever post on this blog, so I won't go too much in depth here. The main thing is to simply have a skincare routine. Doesn't matter what it is. Just have one. Take off your makeup, wash your face, put lotion. If you want to get a lil crazy, you can move along to something more intense. My skincare routine now has 6 steps (face wash, toner, exfoliant, serum, retinol, lotion), but trust me. I worked up to it.

20. Living for microjoys. 

This is the last thing on my list and the most important one. Hopefully you've made it this far. "Microjoy" is a word I heard on Mrs. Midwest's channel, but I've really chosen to integrate it into my everyday life. Being joyful is not just about the big moments. If you live for the big moments (birthdays, holidays, weekends, etc.), then a lot of your life is going to be just you waiting. The point isn't to wait for life to be beautiful but find the beauty in it every single day. I listen to classical music on my drive to work because it makes my morning more beautiful. I don't watch YouTube when I eat because it makes eating more beautiful. I cook extravagant meals because it makes cooking more beautiful. Every single day should have at least one (but if you're doing it right, I think there are way more than that) moment where you can suck in a deep breath of air and feel blessed. I'm not downplaying the struggles that we all have. My days are roller coasters of positive and negative emotions. But I'm just saying to really cultivate that appreciation for each moment as a gift from God's hands. 

Okay! Thank you so much for making it this far, and if you did, comment your favorite tip below (or any tips of your own). This post is already a lot longer than usual (that's why I'm a few days late with it), but I hope you enjoy and have a wonderful, joyful, beautiful day!

With love,
- Theresa


Hello lavender ladies!

I've been getting into a little more of a routine with my blog posts, and I'll admit it's been a lot of fun. I really enjoy sitting down and drafting a quick little message for y'all. It's relaxing and also, in some way, liberating. It's sort of like setting my thoughts free, and I hope you enjoy reading them. As always, comments are welcome. I'd love to start conversations about some of these things.

Alright, so onto today's topic. I don't know if I've talked about this on here yet, but I'm Catholic and as a Catholic, I celebrate Lent. While not every Christian celebrates this season, there are a lot of different non-Catholic denominations that do. I'm not an expert on Lent and you can find some better explanations of it here and here, but the biggest thing to know is that it's a time of fasting to mourn the death of Christ and prepare ourselves for His rising, which is celebrated on Easter. It's a huge season of personal growth where people are encouraged to challenge themselves to develop in new ways and move toward a holier and more meaningful existence.

Even as a little girl, before I fully understood all that, I enjoyed and looked forward to Lent. I remember attending CCD—which stands for Confraternity of Christian Doctrine and is a weekly afterschool program for Catholic children not attending Catholic private schools—and I remember that the week before Ash Wednesday, everyone would ask each other "What are you giving up for Lent?" And I remember feeling excited. I think there's something about challenge that has always invigorated me, and maybe invigorates everyone, and I was excited about this opportunity to choose something to give up for Lent that would be really meaningful.

In case you aren't familiar with the concept, the idea is that, since it's a season of fasting, you are supposed to select something to give up for 40 days in order to bring yourself closer to God. Some things I remember giving up as a child were candy, TV, and video games. As I've gotten older, I've started to really lean into this idea of challenging myself to grow toward God. I'll spend a few hours each year perusing different articles online to figure out the perfect thing to give up for Lent, because I want it to be meaningful. Not only that, but I want to feel different when Easter arrives. I want to feel changed.

Something I've realized through all this is that the best things to give up for Lent are typically the things I don't want to give up. Last year when I was trying to decide what to give up, my boyfriend suggested I give up putting so much sugar in my coffee. ***Aside: I've always had a sweet tooth, but back in the day (aka the 2019-2020 school year) I was putting a lot of sugar and creamer in my coffee. I'd put up to 5 sugar cubes in a cup or a huge slosh of creamer and it just was not healthy, but I couldn't make myself stop.*** Anyway, my boyfriend suggested that I stop putting so much sugar and I remember kind of brushing him off and saying "Nah, that's not what I need to give up." 

But the truth of the matter is that's not what I wanted to give up. Luckily, I realized I was getting in my own way. I gave up putting sugar and milk in my coffee and tea for 40 days, and boy oh boy was it a struggle. I went through sugar withdrawal and everything. But it really tested me, and I really turned toward God in those moments of temptation. I celebrated the opportunity to indulge in a latte on Sundays (Sundays are not fasting days because they're celebrations of Christ's resurrection). And now it's been a full year since that Lent and I still drink my coffee black. It was a Lent that changed the way I live my life.

So I wanted something similar for this Lent. And I sort of ran into a similar issue where what I needed to give up for Lent was not what I wanted to give up. I scrolled through countless blog posts about "10 Things to Give Up for Lent" or "What You Should Give Up for Lent This Year," and I kept on seeing the idea of giving up using streaming services. But in these past few months, I became heavily reliant on streaming services. In January, I moved to a new city in Texas for an internship through my university, and being in a new place where I didn't really know anyone has been quite a challenge. Netflix and ABC's The Bachelor were my solace in it all, and I couldn't imagine what I would do when I got home from work exhausted and couldn't watch Netflix while eating or cooking.

So I did not want to give up streaming services. I'm pretty sure I read more than ten different articles that mentioned it, but I was still just like "nope." Finally, somehow, in some way, I recognized my own resistance and I made the connection between how I felt about giving up streaming services and how I felt about giving up sugar and creamer last year. I realized it was what I needed to do.

So here we are, three weeks into Lent and I think I made the right decision. That's not to say it's been easy giving up streaming services. I mean, the first Monday of Lent was actually pretty rough for me. I was tired from work and all I wanted, more than anything, was to get home and watch The Gilmore Girls while eating the cookies my boyfriend sent me for Valentine's Day from Tiff's Treats.

But somehow I stayed strong and watched some YouTube videos instead, and looking back I know that's exactly what needed to happen (I'll make a post soon about some of the YouTubers who have changed my life in these past few weeks). Giving up streaming services has given me back hours of time in the evenings. I'm studying more for my teacher certification exam (which is coming up soon), I'm cooking nicer, healthier, more delicious dinners, and I'm ultimately just using the limited time I have each evening in a more productive way.

So anyway, that's my update on Lent. Do you celebrate it? Why or why not? And if so, what have you decided to give up and how's it going?

Stay focused, stay disciplined, and as always, stay lavender!

Love,

- Theresa

I grew up in a predominantly Spanish-speaking area. My hometown is along the southern Texas-Mexico border, and so even though the language is not spoken in my own home, it is spoken in the homes of lots of people I care about. Because of this I have always been passionate about the language, even though I have never crossed the threshold of bilingualism.

When I was in first grade, my teacher gave me a set of Spanish flashcards to use over the summer, in case I wanted to learn. As a seven-year-old, I didn’t quite have the dedication to follow through with that, but I did learn that a pato is a duck, so I guess that’s something.


My desire to learn Spanish has never fluctuated, but my dedication to that goal has been pretty turbulent. I’ve downloaded and re-downloaded Duolingo probably ten times (or more) by this point in my life and I’ve gone through phases where I've tried to convince my boyfriend to only speak in Spanish to me (since he speaks Spanish). I took three years of Spanish in high school and three semesters of in college, and while I have improved, I’m still not where I want to be. Learning a new language is difficult, and crossing the threshold from being-able-to-sorta-get-by to total fluency is especially challenging.


As a soon-to-be math teacher, I’ve been getting into describing things with graphs lately, and so I drew this graph, which I think resembles how learning a second language has felt over these past few years.


For any other math nerds out there, this is a modified cube root graph that I vertically stretched and shifted to the right and up. I feel like learning a language is something that happens really slowly at first, accelerates, and then slows back down before plateauing. When I first started trying to learn Spanish, it was pretty difficult and everything seemed fresh and unfamiliar, from articles and masculine/feminine words to everyday vocabulary. These were the early days of Duolingo for me.


Then I started taking classes and I made a lot of progress. My vocabulary expanded, my grammar improved, I learned different tenses and conjugation. But ever since then, I feel like I’ve plateaued. I haven’t seen much development in my Spanish from the last class I took as a first-semester sophomore.


About two weeks ago, in a conversation with a close friend, I decided I wanted to start trying to learn Spanish again. I also decided I wanted to do it in a way that would be a little more natural and maybe even enjoyable. These are the five things I’ve started doing these past few weeks:


  1. Watching a Netflix show in Spanish. I started with a kid’s show called Puffin Rock translated into Spanish and have since switched to a Mexican drama called Ingobernable (which is absolutely fascinating). I use a Chrome extension called Language Learning with Netflix that you can find here.

  2. Journaling in Spanish. I’ve been trying to get back into the habit of journaling every night, because it’s a great way to unwind and process my day. To improve my language learning, I’ve started journaling partially in Spanish. I’ll begin my journal entries with about a page of Spanish, and then I’ll go back and use the translation app on my phone to correct my writing. Then I write in corrections and highlight words that seem like useful vocabulary, which I add to the list in #3.

  3. Keeping a running list of Spanish vocabulary. Every time my boyfriend uses a Spanish phrase or word that is unfamiliar to me, I jot it down on a running vocabulary list I have in my Notes app. I have also been doing this with words I use in my journaling and phrases I see in Ingobernable.

  4. Using Quizlet. I have always been an avid Quizlet user. Quizlet got me through basically every single class I’ve ever taken starting my freshman year of high school. I’ve even used it to remember people’s names (I’m not kidding). So using it for language-learning was a natural transition. I started out with a Quizlet of the 100 most common words in Spanish and I’ve just been adding words and phrases from the list in my Notes app.

  5. Practicing with people. This is probably the most beneficial, and it’s unfortunately the one I do the least frequently (mostly because I get nervous). But even practicing Spanish with another person (especially someone whose fluent) for just a minute has helped me out enormously. Practice makes perfect, and even though it’s awkward and a little scary, it really is so essential. Benny from Fluentin3months.com recommends creating a basic conversational script and memorizing it so you have something to go off when practicing conversations. It’s up to you. But the most important thing is to start.


Well, that’s all I have for you today. Stay inspired, stay dedicated, and stay lavender, ladies!


— Theresa



Some of you might be aware that these past few days have been pretty rough for Texas. From what I can understand, they've been rough for the entire central United States, from the Rio Grande Valley, which is where I'm from up through Chicago. There have been frigid temperatures and power outages across the state and country and, from a Texas perspective, this is particularly bad since most homes and people in Texas are not equipped to deal with weather this cold. We aren't prepared to drive in it and we aren't prepared to live through it when our power goes out.

I'm living in Central Texas right now, and I woke up on Sunday morning to more snow than I've seen in my entire life. I also woke up to frozen pipes, a phenomenon I was previously unfamiliar with. My friends and family have been struggling with similar issues, from power outages to food and water shortages. 

I don't want to minimize the struggles of literally millions of people and I'm not going to pretend the suggestions I have here will fix this problem. I've been trying really hard to cultivate a peaceful spirit over these past few days, and, I'll be honest. It hasn't been easy. I've had a lot of frustrated, angry, and resentful moments. Everyone going through this difficult time has the right to feel those feelings. They should not be minimized and they should not be pushed aside.

But, if you are also looking for ways to feel peaceful in the midst of all this, these are three things I've been trying to do, and while they haven't fixed the situation, they have helped.

1. Pray or Meditate.

Whether you're religious or not, there is something extremely powerful about resting in silence and focusing on intentionality. When I start to feel overwhelmed, I try to slow my breathing like I've been learning in yoga (which I'll touch on in point 2) and I repeat a little mantra to myself. I learned mine from a YouTube video and it goes a little like this:

Inhale: Nothing can separate me...
Exhale: ...from the love of my God.

The sky is the limit when it comes to a mantra. These are a few others I've seen and heard, but feel free to get creative and find something that works for you! This one's from one of YouTuber Yoga with Adriene's videos:

Inhale: The universe is for me...
Exhale: ...and so is everything else.

And this is a classic from Jane the Virgin, which is probably my favorite Netflix show of all time. I think this one to myself sometimes too.

Inhale: Inhala...
Exhale: ...exhala.

Whatever it is you need to think to yourself, when you start to feel really frustrated and your head is spinning and you need it to stop, suck in a deep breath, and let it go. Rest in a peaceful place in a comfortable position and explore your thoughts. Talk to God. Talk to yourself. And just rest. This is so crucial. When the world is spinning, you deserve this.

2. Exercise (maybe try a little yoga).

Exercise in general is amazing for stress relief, but lately I have become a huge fan of yoga. I mentioned Yoga with Adriene's YouTube channel earlier, and it has been such a godsend in a crazy, turbulent time. Some of her videos are pretty intense, and they can definitely get your heart racing, but some of them are also pretty relaxing. She has videos ranging from five minutes long to an entire hour, so whether you have a ton of time or hardly any, there's a video for you.

I've been trying to do yoga every morning and evening for the past few weeks, and it has drastically improved my mental health. I tend to be a pretty highly strung individual, and so yoga has been a fantastic way to release a lot of the tension I build up throughout the day. I am also pretty high energy, as in I have a need to constantly be moving and doing things, and due to the sun setting super early and my weekends being a little crazy, I haven't been able to run in a while. With this crazy weather, that's especially the case. I have cabin fever like you wouldn't believe! So even though yoga is not the same as a good run by the lake, it still uses a lot of muscle groups and gets the job done.

Some of my favorite videos from Yoga with Adriene's channel are these:

  • 5 Minute Morning Yoga (5 min.)
  • Yoga to Get the Juices Flowing (8 min.)
  • Yoga for Weight Loss - Hips and Core Vinyasa (12 min.)
  • Wind Down Yoga - 12 Min. Bedtime Yoga (12 min.)
  • Yoga for Depression (16 min.)
  • Yoga for Bedtime (20 min.)
  • Yoga to Heal Stress (20 min.)
  • Yoga Tone - Yoga for Weight Loss (22 min.)
  • Weight Loss Yoga - Total Body Workout (1 hr.)

Some of these are pretty intense workouts (especially the Weight Loss ones), whereas the ones dealing with stress, depression, and winding down are intensely therapeutic. I also want to briefly talk about the "Weight Loss" videos. I know sometimes weight loss can be a kind of sensitive topic for a lot of people, and I just want to drive home that exercise is about loving your body, not punishing it. I was nervous to try the weight loss videos because I thought that said something about my own self-image. But Yoga with Adriene is nothing but love and positive energy.

And if yoga's not your thing, that's okay. The big takeaway here is that getting up and getting moving will make you feel better. A lot of times when we think of exercise, we think of running or lifting weights but anything that gets your blood pumping is exercise. That could be yoga, or walking, or cleaning, or dancing or whatever you want it to be.


3. Get busy.

Sometimes, when things get tough, the best thing we can do for ourselves is to take our minds off it. What are some of the things you've been meaning to get done but haven't been able to because of work or general busy-ness? Maybe it's time to dig out that book you've been trying to get through and bundle up in some dark clothing by a sunny window (if your power's out). Or maybe it's time to get creative in the kitchen with whatever you have available in your pantry and fridge. Maybe it's time to call your parents or grandparents or whoever it is you've been meaning to talk to. Practice your Spanish, write your great American novel, paint a picture.

This is a crazy difficult time, and I know silver linings can only get us so far. But you're looking for a few ways to help you feel a little better, these have been semi-working for me. There are still moments when I get overwhelmed and upset, but these have made everything a little more enjoyable and I hope they can do the same for you.

What have you been doing to stay peaceful when the world around you feels like it's going up in flames?

Stay warm, stay strong, and, as always, stay lavender!

- Theresa


As you might have noticed, I've been a little (or should we say a lot) less regular lately with posting. To be more precise, it's been almost exactly six months since my last post (What Is Femininity?) and it would be an understatement to say a lot has changed. ln the past six months, I have:

  • applied to 30+ full-time positions in a recession,
  • spent 2 weeks in isolation because of a COVID scare,
  • wrapped up my final semester of college,
  • accepted a job offer with a nonprofit that trains and places teachers, and
  • moved to a new city for a spring internship through my university.
And those are the big things. But there have been a lot of little ones too, a lot of friends made, sights seen, and experiences had. It's been a very busy six months, and all that busy-ness has given me a lot of time to think about what it means to really manage my time. So today I'd like to share five tips.

1. Learn to say no.

This has probably been one of the biggest things I've had to learn since starting my college career. Boundaries are important with everything, and that's especially true when it comes to our time. Time is a resource and we have a limited amount to use each day. Learning to say "no" to other people is absolutely crucial, whether it's a social event or a responsibility someone's dumping on you that you know you can't handle. In my college leadership organization, I learned it's best to be transparent about what's going on in my life and how overwhelmed I am. If my team leader knows I already have a lot on my plate, they're more understanding when I let them know a particular obligation is too much.

It's also important to learn to say "no" to yourself. I'm the kind of gal to find all kinds of random volunteer opportunities and trainings that I want to apply for. I create plans to achieve all kinds of new goals. I've had to learn that I really can't do it all, and that's okay. If you struggle with this, get an accountability partner. Have someone in your corner who can tell you when you're trying to take on too much and believe them when they tell you to chill out.

2. Identify your priorities.

I recommend sitting down at the beginning of each week, month, and year to determine what matters in your life. At the beginning of my college career, I decided my grades would be my absolute number one priority and because I set that precedent, I was able to pursue high academic standards. Now here is where it's important to recognize the distinction between commitment and involvement. There's a saying my dad shared with me a year or so ago that goes like this:

"The difference between involvement and commitment is like ham and eggs. The chicken is involved; the pig is committed." — Martina Navratilova (Czechoslovak-born American former professional tennis player and coach)

Choose to be committed to the things that matter. Decide that they matter 100% of the time and throw everything you have into them. And remember that when you're committed to something bit, you are not going to have as much energy left for the things you are not committed to. That's okay. 

It's also important to recognize that just because something is lower on your list (an involvement instead of a commitment) doesn't mean it's not important. Sometimes we have a lot of different goals going on at once, and that's completely okay.  However, a big part of time management is being realistic with ourselves. Sure, I can tell myself all the things I do are of equal weight, but there's no way I can pour 100% of myself into all of them all at once. You might think telling yourself you can do it all will make you do it all, but that hasn't been my experience. Normally when I tell myself that every sphere of my life matters equally, I start to prioritize the things that don't matter over the things that do and make myself feel really bad for not prioritizing the ones that don't.

My recommendation is that you sit down and create a list of all the things going on in your life. Now write a 1 next to the ones that matter the most (commitments; I wouldn't pick more than 2). Then a 2 next to the ones that matter a lot, but you're willing to let them slide sometimes (involvements).  Finally, put a 3 next to the things you enjoy that are not really your priority (these are your interests). When you create your list, give yourself some grace. If it's on your list, it matters. The trick is figuring out what matters most. And remember, it's just a list. You can always rearrange it.

3. Determine your non-negotiables.
So you've set your priorities. You know what matters most, but now you have to organize your life to match. The way I go about this is by setting certain small tasks that will help me achieve my goals. You've probably heard that the journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step (Lao Tzu), and achieving your dreams begins the same way.

A good way to approach this is by drafting SMART Goals. "SMART" is an acronym that stands for Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Timely. When you establish tasks, you want them to adhere to these five specifications. As an example, let's take my personal project of writing a novel. A SMART goal I set for myself last year was to write 1,000 words per day, five days a week so I'd have a 70,000 word-draft by January. We can test it against the SMART framework:

  • Specific: The goal is specific because it states exactly what I needed to do and how often I needed to do it.
  • Measurable: I could measure each day whether or not I wrote 1,000 words and I could track my progress towards my 70,000-word goal.
  • Attainable: Depending on how easily the writing came, 1,000 words could take me between a half-hour and an hour to write. This was a reasonable amount of time to set aside for writing.
  • Relevant: Writing each day was relevant to my overall goal of completing a novel.
  • Timely: I had a clear deadline by which I wanted to accomplish my goal (January) and I used that deadline to determine how much I needed to write each day.

Once you've established a task (or tasks) that will help you make progress on your personal project, it's important to set aside some time and treat it as a non-negotiable. This is one of the most important parts of the entire goal-setting process, but it ultimately rests on personal willpower. Setting something as a non-negotiable means you don't let yourself make excuses. For writing, that meant no matter what, I accomplished my writing goals each day. Some days, that might have meant staying up late or cutting into relaxation time.

You can apply this to any kind of task, or even habits. If you're trying to create a better night hygiene routine, wash your face every night, or brush your teeth twice a day, treat those things like non-negotiables. Tell yourself no matter what happens, you will take care of those things before moving onto your next task.

4. Use a calendar.

This is where we get into the nitty-gritty physical "management" of time. The best way to manage your time is to know how much you have and how it's already distributed. At the beginning of each school semester, I would input my entire class schedule into a calendar. From there, I layered extracurriculars, my part-time job, and any habits/tasks I was trying to accomplish on a daily or weekly basis (such as the writing goal I mentioned above). 

This isn't super complicated, but in order for it to be effective, you have to be consistent with it. As soon as I learn about an upcoming obligation, I immediately input it into my Google Calendar. While I'm no longer a college student, I still do this to manage my time today. I set reminders for myself and block out time for important assignments. Without a calendar, it's really hard to plan ahead, and when you aren't planning ahead, then everything you do is a reaction. We want to be more than just reactors. We want to own our time, and the way to do it is with a little extra effort and forethought.

5. Use to-do lists.

We started with the broadest time-management advice and we've been slowly zooming in. We went from controlling where we pour our energy to creating goals to planning those goals out on a weekly or monthly basis. To-do lists are for daily planning, so this is about as zoomed in as we're going to go.

I've gone back-and-forth with to-do lists. Sometimes I use them religiously and other times, I drop the ball and just go off Google Calendar. But back to reacting vs. acting, to-do lists are another key way to ensure we are not just reacting to our responsibilities. We want to manage our time, not have it manage us.

I've used a few different apps for this, from Apple's Reminders app to MinimaList to Google Keep. Google Keep is what I've been using lately and it's by far my favorite. I have several different lists on there, and my favorite part is that it gives you the opportunity to "pin" certain lists to the top of the screen so you don't have to scroll to find them. I have a to-do list for each day of the week, certain organizations I'm in, and then a shopping list that I regularly update throughout the week.

At the end of the day though, different people have different preferences. Maybe a bullet journal works for you, or your phone's Notes app, or an Expo board you keep above your desk. How you keep track doesn't matter. All that matters is that it works. If you've been keeping a to-do list and still somehow keep forgetting to do things, then maybe it's time to switch up the medium.

I hope these tips are helpful to you and that they help you get organized for this coming year. Comment below some of the things you want to accomplish by managing your time. 

Stay organized and, as always, stay lavender ladies!

— Theresa


Let’s do a brainstorming exercise. What are some things that come to mind when you think of the concept of femininity? Up until recently, my list would have looked something like this:

  • Pink 
  • Makeup
  • Flowers
  • Fashion
  • Motherhood
  • Not outdoorsy
  • Timidity
  • Soft-spokenness

While I think these are typical feminine associations, I don’t think femininity is as simple as these words. The problem with defining femininity like this for the past few years is that I excluded myself from the concept by definition. By my own understanding of the word, I was not feminine. I didn’t like pink; I didn’t wear makeup; I didn’t know anything about fashion; I was outdoorsy; and I was loud. So when I thought of femininity growing up, I thought of a woman very different from me. Not only that, but I thought of a woman I didn’t want to be. I didn’t want to wear makeup. I didn’t want to be soft-spoken. I didn’t want to stop being outdoorsy. And so I convinced myself not only that I wasn’t feminine, but that I shouldn’t be.

I think the issue with lists like this is that they are too superficial. These are classic feminine associations, but that’s not because these things are the essence of femininity. It’s the other way around. Femininity is its own essence and often manifests in these ways. It often manifests in a preference for the color pink, a desire to wear makeup, an appreciation for flowers, and so forth, but those things aren’t the absolute definition of femininity.


So what is?


We can answer this question by examining the common thread running through each association, identifying a trend. We can determine why we think each thing is feminine and how all those whys connect. You can do this with your own list, but my list ends up looking like this:


  • Pink is feminine because… it’s tied to life and beautification; think flowers, fruit, etc.
  • Makeup is feminine because… it’s a creative outlet and it allows a woman to beautify and express herself with her appearance.
  • Flowers are feminine because… they’re delicate and, biologically speaking, they’re the reproductive part of floral plants.
  • Fashion is feminine because… it’s another creative outlet through which a woman can beautify and express herself.
  • Motherhood is feminine because… women are able to create life within their wombs and nurture that life afterward.
  • A lack of outdoorsiness is feminine because… it’s a manifestation of vulnerability and a need for protection from the elements.
  • Timidity is feminine because… it is a manifestation of gentleness and vulnerability.
  • Soft-spokenness is feminine because… it represents gentleness and consideration for the people around you. 


So what we can do here is pull out the common threads that make each of these things seem feminine to create another more specific list. Mine looks something like this:


Femininity is…

  • Tied to life/life-giving/nurturing
  • Creative/expressive/beautifying
  • Delicate/vulnerable/gentle/considerate

Growing up, femininity was unattainable for me, because I was not and did not want to be the things on my list. I did not want to be less outdoorsy, wear more makeup, or become interested in fashion. But the truth is I don’t have to do those things to be feminine. What I have to do is cultivate my ability to “give life” to those around me, to nurture my relationships and the environments I exist in. I have to develop my ability to express myself through creative pursuits and beautify the pieces of the world I encounter. I have to learn to be considerate of the people around me, to embrace my vulnerabilities (when it makes sense to), and to depend on the people around me (again, when it makes sense to).


And these are all things I can do without forcing myself to like a superficial color, faking timidity, or forcing myself to give up something I’m passionate about like camping. Femininity is not a color, a hobby, or a habit. It’s an essence, a creative, life-giving, delicate essence.


What does your list look like?


As always, stay lavender.


— Theresa


Existentialism. What a fun word to say. I've been having existential crises since high school (or so I used to say) with very little knowledge about what that word, existentialism, actually meant. When I finally learned what it meant, I was honestly pretty intimidated. If you give it a quick Google search, you'll get something like this:

a tradition of philosophical inquiry that explores the nature of existence by emphasizing the experience of the human subject—not merely the thinking subject, but the acting, feeling, living human individual.

I know. It's kind of a lot to think about. But after a semester reading famous existentialist philosophers like Kierkegaard, Sartre, and Dostoevsky, I've come to realize that the philosophy, at its core, is a lot simpler than that. 

Existentialism strives to answer the following question:

What does it mean to live a meaningful life?

Now, if you're not so much into philosophy, you might be wondering why I'm talking about all of this. You've come to my blog to learn about femininity and personal growth, not a 19th-century school of thought.

But the thing is if you're reading this blog, you are into philosophy. Maybe you just don't know it yet. Philosophy comes from the Greek words philo, meaning love, and sophia, meaning wisdom. It literally translates as "the love of wisdom." If you're someone who enjoys reading blog posts, then you're someone who enjoys partaking in others' wisdom. You don't necessarily have to care about Plato (though he is a lot of fun) to be into philosophy.

Now back to existentialism.

Why should you care?

Well, why do we choose to cultivate our femininity? Why do we seek to develop ourselves physically, mentally, and spiritually? Why do we go to church, read the Bible, do our jobs, spend time with our families, or pursue our hobbies? 

We do those things because they provide our lives with meaning.

And the things that give us meaning structure the way we perceive our past, the way we exist in our present, and the way we plan for our future. Whether you've been a fan of existentialism for a while now or this is your first time reading a definition of the word, you are trying to create a meaningful life for yourself. I know that because we all are.

I look forward to seeing you in the next post! As always, stay lavender!

— Theresa
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